What the Caregiver Can (and Shouldn’t) Share with Family

Caregivers in Forest Hills, NY – Establishing Boundaries Early is Important to the Privacy of the Caregiver and Senior Alike

John wasn’t a very experienced caregiver when he first took the job with an elderly gentleman named Sam. John was actually still going to college and needed some extra money. Despite all his other efforts, he wasn’t able to secure a job at anything other than fast food restaurants. He wanted something different and when he noticed the ad for a caregiver, he decided to take advantage of the situation.

John was hired through an agency and received some basic training. He was given certain advice regarding techniques and strategies to help the patient in the best way possible. On his first day, he was very nervous but Sam made him feel at home right away.

Within the first couple of weeks, John realized that Sam was a high functioning individual who only needed a little bit of support from time to time. This meant that John was able to study and do homework while he was at Sam’s house, as long as Sam was okay with it, which he tended to be most days.

John met Sam’s family, his adult children, one afternoon when they came by for a visit. Before he realized it, he was handing over his phone number and getting theirs as well. Within a few days, one of Sam’s adult children called John to talk to him about their father. The first call was relatively innocent. They were asking about John, his experiences, what he was going to college for, and other things that pretty much strayed away from their father and his care.

However, they began to call more frequently and ask very personal questions about their father, especially about his health, medications he was taking, and even the doctor he was visiting. John didn’t think much about it and was telling them what they wanted to hear and giving them answers to most of the questions.

This ended up getting back to Sam and he was upset with John about this. Sam didn’t fire John, but offered him a valuable learning experience.

When you are a caregiver for an elderly patient, or for any patient, there is certain information that you can and shouldn’t share with their family members. Anything that is personal in nature should be left to the patient to divulge to their loved ones if they want to.

That includes any issues that arise while providing home care for the patient. A family member is not entitled to know personal medical information of their loved one if that loved one doesn’t want to share it. They also don’t need to know embarrassing situations that arise, such as incontinence issues with the patient. Keep confidence when you are a caregiver for the patient has every right to his or her privacy.

For more information about caregivers in Forest Hills, NY and the surrounding areas, contact Best Senior Home Care at 718-208-4002. Serving Bayside, Flushing, Fresh Meadows, Whitestone, Forest Hills, Little Neck, Auburndale, Queens Village, Bellerose, Manhattan and surrounding communities.


About Kevin Meaney

At 85 my dad lived on his own in Florida for nine months of the year, enjoying the warm weather and playing golf several times a week with friends.
Then one day while taking a walk alone, he suddenly got a little light-headed and fell, resulting in a serious head injury and a four week stay in the hospital and rehab.

Suddenly everything changed.
My dad’s condition after the accident made it clear he could no longer live independently, and after some deliberation my wife and I decided to have him come and live with us in New York.

We were both still working at the time, but I had a home office, and so I became my dad’s primary caregiver/companion during the day. Although my dad was easy going and a low-maintenance guy, he did need some help with washing and dressing, meal preparation, medication reminders, trips to the doctor, and socialization. Always a very outgoing guy, I noticed now that without some encouragement/nudging, he would be content to stay home and watch TV all day.

This experience led me to start Best Senior Home Care.
It helped me really appreciate just how challenging and stressful it can be to care for an aging parent at home. This despite the fact I was lucky enough to have a spouse and grown children at home to help, and many siblings nearby only too happy to assist whenever needed.

Clearly not all families are this fortunate! At Best Senior Home Care, our mission is a simple one – help families in need to find reliable, compassionate caregivers to be there for your loved ones when you can’t be there. Over the last five years we have helped many families in the area with in-home care for an aging parent or other relative. Google Verified Author